The Various Relationship Endings & How They Keep You From Getting Over Your Ex Girlfriend...

One of the biggest things that trip guys up right after a painful break is really seeing that its over...

I mean really accepting that its over...

And why should you?

You have a history with this girl...

If you're in this much pain at the thought of not being with her anymore that must mean there was something special going on between the two of you...

A connection that you cant just go and get anywhere else...

Definitely a connection SHE can't go get from another guy... Despite what she might think.

Truly accepting that its over is one of the toughest parts of getting over an ex girlfriend...

And its one of the things that most guys get stuck on for a long time.

They spend time thinking about ways to get her back...

Or how eventually she has to see that she is making a mistake...

Or that maybe in the future in some way they'll end up getting back together (I think there is some Hollywood influence here, in my honest opinion...)

All this sounds appealing...

Especially if you still really love this girl...

There Is No Such Thing As A Clean Break Up...

If you still really care about this girl...

And SHE is the one who wanted to leave...

Or she's been trying to leave (with out actually saying it)

Or she cheated on you with another guy...

Then things can't be "normal" anymore.

They can't be civil.

They can't be "cool" between the two of you.

At least not for a long while.

Most guys though get so wrapped up in the hopes that if they just hold on somehow then she'll come around.

If they could just talk it though and explain it to her. Make her jealous, make her regret what she's or just somehow make her really see that she is making a mistake.

Sometimes its because it just feels better to have the upper hand.

Sometimes its because its hard to imagine what things will be like with out her...

Mostly its because you just want things to be back to the way they used to be...

Usually relationship endings have different ways they play out...

Tell me if any of these sound familiar to you.

No Contact: A Total Cut Off Of Contact And The Mindf&$#! Of Unanswered Questions...

This can be the most SHOCKING and the most painful.

Everything just grinds to a halt and she leaves.

Not only is the pain overwhelming when it sets in, but you're not even close to accepting it yet.

Too big.

Too much.

Too fast.

This is usually when it's the most tempting to call her and get some kind of explaination if the one she gave you isn't satisfying (it never is...)

You also just want a chance to explain yourself, because if you didn't see this coming there must be some kind of mistake that you should be able to clear up...

And speaking of which...

When the pain really sets it that is when you start berating yourself for not seeing it coming in the first place.

How could you not see the signs that this was going to happen?

There is no way she has been think about this for a long time... Could she?

Dwindling Contact... All Downhill, All Painful...

This can be just as painful as the sudden break up...

Its still the end... And at some level the two of you both know it... But you're still talking because...

It would be rude not to... It would be weird to just not talk to each other suddenly. And you're just so used to talking to her that what else would you do.

But when you do, it generally doesn't make you feel any better. Worse usually.

Its death...Except its slow. Slow and painful.

Somewhere in there is the hope that maybe things will pick back up again... And that one of those innocent "ping" might turn into something.

The happy birthday...

The checking to see how she is doing...

The innocent comment on her profile...

A funny text message maybe...

There is that hope that it might... it just ,might lead to the two of you getting back together.

And so what seems innocuous... Is really you timidly trying open that door again.

And it always HURTS when it doesn't work.

Still Friends... Torturing Yourself With The Hope That If You Keep Her In Your Life You'll Eventually Get Her Back...

You and her are both in agreement that the connection the two of you have...

The relationship between the two of you is two important to just throw away...

So after some silence maybe the two of you get together and decide its good idea to just be friends.

You don't want to waste what you have so maybe it will turn into a really profound friendship.

Especially if you were friends before... This makes total sense.

Except you probably noticed that it doesn't feel like a friendship.

In fact now there all this "other stuff" layered on top of the friendship that you used to have.

In somewhere in the back of your head you probably think that if you stay friends with her, eventually she will come back to you.

Eventually, while being your friend, it will hit her how much of a mistake she made...

But in the meantime you have to "pretend" that its cool to just be friends...

And that it doesn't bother you that she is building and planning a life without...

And that it doesn't bother that she might be enjoying that life...

And it doesn't bother that she might be doing it with another guy...

She Wanted To Take A Break... Which Really Means She Doesn't Want To Shock You All At Once With The Break Up That's Coming...

This can be the ultimate mind game because this really gives you reason to keep hanging on...

To look forward to the time when things clear up and you guys get back together.

And things can be "normal" again.

Generally when people try taking a break from each other its one of two scenarios...

You and her really care about each other equally and you need a break to take some space. "Couples" do this often especially if its at the ending of a long term relationship. Sometime things get too intense, b.s gets in the way and people who still want to be with each other take a breather.

She has been thinking about breaking up with you and this is her way of testing the waters... What this means is that she broke up with you. She just couldn't do it all at once. She didn't want to shock you with the break up all at once because, chances are she knew you wouldn't take it well.

One of the toughest things is to put wishful thinking aside, and see what category you're in.

...Another Guy...

If there is anything more gut wrenchingly painful then having your girlfriend taken from you by another guy...

Then please... Send me an email and tell me what it.

Because I have yet to hear of it.

Thinking about her enjoying herself with him...

Laughing with him...

And yes... Having sex with him.

Whether you know who he is... Or you just suspect "he" is out there.

Can tear you up from the inside.

Jealouosy and all the interal instanity that comes with it is what drive guys to do all kinds of crazy shit!

Everything from cyber-stalking... To stalking-stalking... To...

Well. Read the papers.

If you were to read about stalking and domestic violence cases you would see a pattern of "cheating girlfriend" or "jealous ex boyfriend" everywhere.

Jealousy and the pain that comes with it HURTS more than anything and it can really eat you up from the inside.

BUT there is a way to deal with it...

In the Audio Series I go over step by steps "how to"s involving each one of these scenarios and specific details on how to deal with each...

You can download it here

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