How A Broken Heart & The "Flair Ups" of Pain & Longing For Your Ex Girlfriend Will Play Themselves Out...

Its true that guys will often stay hung up on an ex girlfriend for months and sometimes years after a girl they really likes breaks up with them...

But having a broken heart is different than staying hung up on a girl.

Not being over a girl is when you keep thinking about her all the time...

A broken heart is when you really FEEL her absence.

The weird thing about a broken heart is that you don't feel it for months at a time...

In fact there is nothing steady or predictable about that "heartbroken feeling" after. Healing a broken heart and "getting over" your ex girlfriend is NOT the same thing.

They are strongly related, but they both happen in different ways.

Getting over the broken hearted feeling isn't a straight line...

It's usually a mess.

Its usually two steps forward and one step back.

Sometime 3 steps back... Depending on what kind of a day it is.

And usually it's a dull pain between random "flair ups"...

It's the flair ups or love spells that are the most overwhelming, painful and isolating.

Those are the times when it becomes unbearable and you feel compelled to do something to make it go away...

Signs that she has moved on or is with someone else will almost always trigger the broken heart "flair up".

I'm talking about the stuff that you want to know about what your ex girlfriend is doing, but you always regret finding out when you do... If she misses you or not. Is she having fun with out you or is she even thinking about seeing any other guys... The curiosity builds and whether its on purpose or not you end up finding out about it.

You'll sneak a peak at her Facebook profile to see how she is doing (so you tell yourself at least)...

And you see a picture of her, maybe a new one she has posted up.

Maybe she looks like she is having a little bit too much fun in the picture.

She's hanging out with friends and she's smiling and enjoying herself.

Or there is some guy you've never seen before in the one of the new pictures.

And of course that gets you thinking...

Or worse yet you see evidence that confirms that she left you for another guy...

If you've been through this you know exactly what I am talking about... There really isn't a worse kind of heartbreak than seeing that you have so quickly been replaced by someone else...

"Evidence" of you when you were a couple and the time you spent together...

Its hard not to spot out left over clues that you and her were an item once... Especially if the pain is pretty fresh... These can be everything from her actual belongings to things lying around that were only meaningful when you were with her.

Photographs of her or the two of you together.

Stuff she left behind at your place or gifts she gave you.

Running into mutual friends... Or people constantly asking you about her or what she is doing...

Plans that you made for the two of you that you have to change.

Left over text messages or voicemails on your phone...

Stuff she left behind at your place or gifts she gave you.

"Evidence" that the two of you have broken up.

A place in the room where she used to sit.

Her stuff no longer at your place or in your car.

Her Facebook profile changing to "single".

Not having a person to call when you see something funny or interesting.

The nights and weekends or times that you used to spend with her... The empty spaces in your days that she used to fill.

You'll see something random that reminds you of your ex girlfriend.

Of course this can be almost everything depending on how much you think about her, how much you liked her and how far along you are in the healing after breaking up with her.

A girl walks by with a similar hair color, body type, or clothing style as your ex girlfriend...

You see a car similar to the one she drives.

Some food that is in the refrigerator that she used to like.

A song comes on that she liked.

All of these things can be really overwhelming at first, but when you begin to see what it is that triggers the pain...

Seeing What Triggers The Really Painful Episodes of That "Broken Hearted" Feeling Is The First Step To Actually Doing Something To Get Relief From It...

All of these things can be really overwhelming at first, but when you begin to see what it is that triggers the pain...

You'll expect it when it happens so it won't knock you over as badly when it does.

You'll start being able to do something about it... And start shifting the thoughts and conditions that cause them.

You'll expect it when it happens so it won't knock you over as badly when it does.

The truth is, if you learn how the ticks and methods to change your mindset, you won't even be thinking about her at all... and if you know what to do about them beforehand you get over your ex girlfriend alot QUICKER.

If you want to learn how the most powerful and easy tricks to get over her quickly... and with NO regression of backsliding in the coming weeks, check out the chapter on "Healing Heartbreak in my "Get Over Her Now"...

Or check out the last three session in my audio program "Over Her Overnight" for some serious "advanced mind hacks" that will help short circuit the pain instantly.

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